A conversation with a Friend about Book of Mormon personages Laman, Lemuel and Nephi

I had a good conversation with a friend recently about the difference between the Book of Mormon prophet Nephi, and his rebellious brothers Laman and Lemuel. I was about to shoot off this email about our conversation when I realized this would make a very nice blog post. I have removed the friend's name to protect his identity. Enjoy!

Hello [friend],

I was looking at my notes from our conversation the other morning. At a regional conference (a meeting of multiple stakes) recently, one might say that Elder Jeffery R. Holland laid into us as church members for coming to conferences or church meetings, and going home and doing nothing about what we heard. He admonished us to become, "doers of the word and not hearers only" (see James 1:22). I've been trying to be better about doing that. I was impressed as I read over my notes of our conversation of how much of it I forgot already!

Here's a brief summary:

Bryce: "What do you think made the difference between Laman and Lemuel and Nephi (see the book of 1 Nephi  in the Book of Mormon)?"

[friend]: "The way they turned out?"

Bryce: "Yeah."

. . .

I read starting in 1 Ne. 15:7: Nephi's brethren are arguing about what the things their father taught mean. They couldn't understand the analogy mentioned in verse 7. In verse 8, Nephi asks, "Have ye inquired of the Lord?" Their response, "We have not, for the Lord maketh no such thing known unto us." Nephi's response, "How is it that ye do not keep the commandments of the Lord?"

I didn't realize it, but my recounting of our conversation is not that dissimilar to Nephi's recounting of his conversation with his brethren!

Is Nephi saying that if we are not asking God questions that we are not keeping the commandments? (see v. 9-10) 

Bryce: "Basically, it looks like he's saying if you: (Verse 11): a) don't harden your heart, b) ask in faith, c) believe you will receive, d) and diligently keep the commandments,  d) God will answer our questions and teach us--he will speak to us and communicate with us."

[friend]: "Sounds easy enough."

Bryce: chuckles. "Sounds easy enough."

Bryce: "So, it looks like prayer and keeping the commandments made the difference [between Nephi and his brethren]. 

Why does prayer and keeping the commandments make the difference? Prayer attunes our hearts to God. Our obedience allows God's spirit to work on us and in lives. [My thought this morning as I reviewed this: God is very respectful of our agency. He will not meddle in our lives uninvited. Prayer and obedient striving are how we invite God into our lives. Through prayer, we can explicitly ask God to help us. I, and I think you, know that God is intimately aware of us. The scriptures say that his arms are stretched out to us. Prayer is how we reach out to him and take his hand. God's greatest desire is for us to take his hand and become like him. But, God will not intrude upon our agency. If we do not ask, he cannot assist. If he violated our agency, he would cease to be God. So, in short, God's greatest desire is to help us. His arm is stretched out still. But for him to tamper with the agency we fought for in the war in heaven would be contrary to to his eternal plan. God longs to help us, but eternal law requires that we ask. Does that make sense?]

I think I'll leave off there for now. I would like to report that my prayers have changed since our conversation. I have been blessed to take time to pray and my prayers have been sincere. I know that God knows everything. He knows my struggles in all aspects of my life. He knows and loves me and my family. I know that if I will seek him in prayer, he will guide me in the best ways to overcome and face the challenges I have in my life. I want to be increasingly grateful for God's attentive care. But, as I've stated above, it takes effort to reach through the veil and take God's hand. I pray that you and I can be faithful. I pray that we can and will seek God in prayer. God's promise is that if we seek him diligently, we will find him. I invite you to join me in seeking God in prayer (also see this talk, "Draw Near unto Me," from a General Conference of days gone by).

Bryce

The "Mormon Moment" part 2

Time after time, I find that the Book of Mormon, a text that was written about 1600 years ago, is amazing relevant for our day. In fact, time after time, it is very clear to me that, as President Ezra Taft Benson stated in 1986, this book was written for our day! (see, "The Book of Mormon--Keystone of our Religion," from the Ensign magazine, November 1986) Here's a relevant example of what I mean that deals with how Mormons react to people with opposing viewpoints.

A lesson from the Book of Mormon about how disciples of Christ should handle religious contention (Book of Mormon, Alma chapter 1: 19-25, highlighting added and comments in brackets [like this] added):

 19 But it came to pass that whosoever did not belong to the church of God began to persecute those that did belong to the church of God, and had taken upon them the name of Christ.

 20 Yea, they did persecute them, and afflict them with all manner of words. . . .

[so, the believers in Christ were persecuted by those who believed differently than they did.] 

 21 Now there was a strict law among the people of the church, that there should ^anot any man, belonging to the church, arise and persecute those that did not belong to the church, and that there should be no persecution among themselves.

[So, the law of the Church was that the members should never persecute those who were not members!]

 22 Nevertheless, there were many among them who began to be proud, and began to contend warmly with their adversaries, even unto blows; yea, they would smite one another with their ^afists.

[Evidently, Church members' tempers flared to the point of physical violence!]

 23 Now this was in the second year of the reign of Alma, and it was a cause of much affliction to the church; yea, it was the cause of much trial with the church.

 24 For the hearts of many were hardened, and their names were^ablotted out, that they were remembered no more among the people of God. And also many ^bwithdrew themselves from among them.

[sounds like people getting angry with detractors and reacting was a bad thing for the Church. And, interestingly, for some Church members, how they reacted to detractors ultimately led to their excommunication or voluntary withdrawal from the Church! To me that says, "take very good care how you react to detractors!"]

 25 Now this was a great trial to those that did stand fast in the faith; nevertheless, they were ^asteadfast and immovable in keeping the commandments of God, and they bore with ^bpatiencethe persecution which was heaped upon them.

[to me, this verse implies that if we want to follow Christ, we need to roll with the punches, regardless of how detractors and fellow members interact.] 

The "Mormon Moment"

16 January 2012

I read this article from the Washington Post the other day by Mormon Kathryn Skaggs. As often happens, within a few days comments both pro- and anti-Mormon began to cascade below the article. I weighed in with a few simple statements and suggestions. I'm new in the internet world, but what happened here looks to be a common phenomenon, at least when dealing with Mormonism.

The article touched off something of a firestorm of comments and counter-comments. I want to comment on how Mormons react to criticism.

Typically, faithful Mormons come to the defense of their religion, either in response to an article's content, or in response to another reader's comment.

What I find disappointing is that as often as not, Mormons respond to criticism in a tone that is less than civil. I think that is less that what Christ expects of us (see Matthew 5:43-47, for example). I think, if Mormons were kinder in their responses, much of the contention in these post-article discussions would dissipate. It takes two to tango. If we were content to civilly and respectfully defend our faith and then lay down our "weapons of war," I think we would find, like the anti-Nephi-Lehies of the Book of Mormon that some of those who are stirred up against us would be inclined to wonder what motivates us to be kind.